Entrepreneur | 5 Big Business Boundaries That Will Benefit Your Family

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Get ready to enter the Thrivetime Show! Look, look, as a father of five, that’s where I’mma dive. So if you see my wife and kids, please tell them hi. It’s C and Z up on your radio. And now, three, two, one, here we go. We started from the bottom, now we’re here. Started from the bottom, and that’s what we gotta do. Hello, Tulsa. You are listening to the Thrive Time Show on your Drive Time Home. And as always, I’m your co-host, Clay Tiberius Clark. And on this magical microphone we’re going to be providing you with those entrepreneurial nuggets of knowledge that you’re just not getting in college. Today I am joined with two incredible people. One of our incredible Thrive Time show co-hosts, Mrs. Sherita Bent. How are you? Hey, I’m fabulous. We have my wonderful wife, Mrs. Vanessa Clark. How are you? Great to see you all again. Today we are talking about five big business boundaries that will benefit your family. I repeat, five big business boundaries that will benefit your family. Is today’s show for you? Let me ask you a few questions. Do you ever work with your spouse or significant other? Is that you? Are you working with your spouse? Are you working with your significant other? Maybe you want to. Have you ever irritated your spouse so much as a result of something that you said or did at work that you’re pretty convinced that you’re going to have to sleep at your office? Is that you? Is that you? Has your spouse ever repeatedly irritated you? Now, now, see now, now, now, now you go, yeah, yeah, yeah. Getting real now. Has your spouse ever repeatedly irritated you at the workplace to the point that your head wanted to explode. If you answer yes to those questions, then you probably need to listen to today’s training to five big business boundaries that will benefit your family. I’m just going to say the word Billy so I have more B’s than there’s some. Boundary number one is you want to set those boundaries with your time. I’m going to start off here with Miss Vanessa, my incredible wife of 15 years. She’s been putting up with me for a long time, Thrivers. When you have somebody who knows about how to deal with a spouse that irritates them, she knows all this kind of stuff. So boundary number one, set boundaries with your time. Why is it so important that you do that? You know, it’s huge. Just the same way you set boundaries with your business and you make appointments for clients you need to see or for different tasks that need to get done, your family is just as important. We have found that it works best to schedule in your appointment book time with your family. Otherwise, you know what? There’s going to be someone who calls and they take precedent just that one time, just that one time, just that one time. Just those seven times. And it keeps adding up. But if you say, you know what? Actually I’m so sorry, but I’m booked during that time. You don’t owe the explanation of I’m booked to go home and see my family. Because for some reason, people don’t see that as a boundary. And they think, oh, well, you could just squeeze me in if it’s your wife or your kids. But if you say, I’m booked, there’s no need. You don’t owe anyone an explanation of what you’re booked for. But you do owe your family that time. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Now, real quick, I want to give you a notable quotable. And I want to, Sherita, I want to get your feedback on this. Because you’re saying, Vanessa, you’ve got a set time for family. I know we have a Thriver listening right now. Well, it’s probably not Thrivers. Thrivers all have great marriages, great families. We don’t have anyone listening today who’s ever had a strained relationship with their spouse. I know if you have a strained relationship with your spouse, you’re listening to The Other Station. Everyone has it all together here, all of our listeners in the Thrive Time Show. But I’m going to give you a notable quotable, and Sherita, I want to get your feedback on this. Sure. This notable quotable comes to us via Daniel Goleman. Now who’s Daniel Goleman? He’s the best-selling author of this book called Emotional Intelligence. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend you do. It has an orange cover. It’s a fabulous book, but he says, we need to recreate boundaries. When you carry a digital gadget, that creates a virtual link to the office. You need to create a virtual boundary that didn’t exist before. Miss Sherita, break that down for us. You’re a mom. You’re connected to the office. You like to work hard. Talk to me about how important it is to start to set those digital boundaries. Sure. I think it’s really important because we live in a world now that’s so interconnected and everyone is accessible all the time. Oh boy. Do you remember back in the day when you had a landline? Yeah, that was hot. You just had one line and then you had two lines and it’s just like we used to have those boundaries built into our society because you couldn’t reach people all the time. So it’s just important for your own mental sanity, I think, not to be available 24-7. I’m going to tell on myself real quick. I’m so sorry. Sorry to interrupt you, Ms. Bird. If you go, then I’ll go. We’ll take turns. I want to tell on myself. If you’re listening right now, this is something that we’re all doing. You as a listener, I’m sure, are not doing this, but I have done this. You wait all week to take your incredibly gorgeous wife on a date. If you’re a lady listening, you’re going on a date with your husband and what happens is that cell phone starts to creep out. The waiter walks up and says, what do you guys want to drink? You go, I’ll take a water. I’ll take a whatever. You order. He comes back. He brings out the menu. By that time, you’re already now on the cell phone. Now you’re updating your status. You’re writing, I’m on a date with my hubby. Or I’m on a date with my wife. But you’re telling people you’re on a date, but you’re not cognitively engaged with your spouse. This sort of jackassery, which comes from the word jackass, continues throughout the entire dinner, the entirety of the dinner. You end up not communicating with the person you went out to dinner with and you end up with now having like, you’re almost frustrated with somebody who’s writing that Hillary’s a terrible person or that Trump is a terrible man and now you’re having a political debate on your cell phone while you’re supposed to be having a meal with someone you care about. And so this is what I think should happen is, if you’re listening right now, have you guys ever seen the movie Old School? Sherry, have you seen the movie Old School? I don’t think I have. Old School is with Will Ferrell. Yeah. And it’s a movie where at one point he gets super intoxicated and he takes off his clothes and he tries to convince everyone to go streaking with him. Now obviously you’re driving home. Nobody here is intoxicated. You’re driving home and you’re very cognitively aware. If you heard somebody say these words, you would say, no, no, no, you should not go streaking. You’re going to go to jail. But for some reason, my wife loves speakers, but for some reason if you are out to eat and you’re on your cell phone, no one interrupts you. So listen to this sound. Listen to this audio because this is how I feel about taking your spouse out to eat and spending the entire time you’re out to eat on your social media. So here we go. I’m going to get the sound clip ready and boom. We’re going streaking through the plot and into the gymnasium. Come on, everybody! Come on, Snoop! Snoop the Loop! Snoop! No, it’s cool, it’s cool. I’m cool. Bring your green hat. Let’s go. Come on, everybody! We’re going! That’s Will Ferrell trying to convince Snoop Dogg to go streaking with him. I must say my favorite part is when his naked butt gets in the car and those women… She’s ready to go. Did you see her flip phone? No, I don’t want to go with this. This streaker girl will never not be funny to me. People streaking places. You’re one of those people, that’s why streakers do it, is because there’s someone in the crowd like you who reacts. But I’m being serious though. Streaking is like a shocking thing. If you knew somebody who was streaking, you would advise them not to do so. Don’t do it. But for some reason, texting constantly or updating your Facebook or your social media while you’re going out to eat with your spouse is not something that is shocking, but it really is destroying relationships. So Ms. Vanessa, back to you. What I really wanted to add there, Clay does this and I’m so thankful for it. Not only out to eat with family or with your husband or wife, but just family time in general. If you’re going to be with your family, be with your family. Be there. Turn the phone off. Turn the electronics off. Because like you said, the phone is such a tie back to the office and to work and it can just keep going. He does that really well. He’s myopically focused. So if he’s at work, he is focused on work. You’re not going to get through unless it has to do with work or unless there is an emergency situation. But the same way, if he’s at home, he’s 100% at home. He doesn’t want to get a text or a call from someone at work because they can’t focus. So I really recommend that for everyone. Just to turn off that phone if you still need a personal line to reach people, whatever. But that’s the office. If you’re just tuning in, we’re talking about the five big business boundaries that will benefit your family. We’re talking about how to have a great family and a great business. Boundary number one is you want to set boundaries with your time. Now, I have another notable quote I’m going to read to you, and I want to get your, Thrivers, I want you to take some notes mentally. I want you to think about whether you agree with this statement, because at first it sounds sort of terrible, but I’m going to read it to you, and you just tell me if you agree with that, and kind of just rhetorically work with me here. Here we go. The secret of happiness is minimizing the amount of time that you spend with people you don’t choose to be with. This is just math. Phil Libin, the CEO of Evernote. Evernote’s a company worth hundreds of millions of dollars, and he says the secret of happiness is minimizing the amount of time that you spend with people you don’t choose to be with. So I’m going to give you an example. Let’s say that you are a huge Hillary supporter. You love Hillary. Oh, you love Hillary, Ms. Clinton. You want her to win. Let’s say you’re listening right now and you’re a big Trump. You’re a Trumpaholic. You’re Trump, Trump, Trump. Hillary, Hillary, Hillary. Now, when you’re out to eat, again, going back to that scenario, or you’re at home, and you see somebody update their status, telling you their opinions, and let’s say their opinions strongly disagree with your worldview. Right. Now, some people, I’m sure not you, KFAQ listeners, I’m sure you, not 1170 listeners, some people get upset. Now, they actually get emotionally upset about the commentary that comes into their home via their phone, via the social media updates of other people that they’re not even with. And so now, they’re struggling to be happy even when in the confines of their home. Ms. Sherita, have you seen this be a problem? Is it a problem with other families or just exclusively the 1170 listeners? No, I’ve seen people do it and I think, like you’re saying, when you just have your boundaries set and you know, hey, this is my time to be present here with my family or to be present here fully at work with no distractions because people get into these irate fights and conversations and it’s like, this is foolishness. Well, and again, you’re spending the time with the people you’re supposed to be spending the time with, the people that you love. I think like that quote says, the secret of happiness is minimizing the amount of time you spend with people you don’t choose to be with. If you’re choosing to be with your family at that time, be with your family. Not updating your network or whatever. If you’re choosing to be at work at this time, be with your employees. Be with the managers. Get the stuff done so you can get out of there and get on home. I have something with that too. I think also it’s really important to think about what is the fruit of what you’re doing. What is the fruit of what you’re doing? Now here’s the deal. If you’re listening right now and you’re wondering, what are you guys talking about? You’re just tuning in. We’re talking about the five big business boundaries that will benefit your family. We have my wife on the show. We have Mrs. Sherita on the show. The whole point is we want you to have a successful life. The whole point of this show is we want you to have a successful life. Building a business is just a vehicle to help you get there. We come up, we’re going to be talking, we come back, we’re going to be talking about boundary number two, to go. And so I want to ask you today, I want you to think about this aggressively. If you’re on your way home right now, it’s okay to think aggressively. You can’t text and drive, you know, you can’t do that, you can’t email yourself while driving, but you can think aggressively. So I want you to think about this for just a second. Think about this. What do you want to do with your life? If you had all the money in the world, what do you want to do with your life? Deep thoughts. Think about it. I want you to really think about it. What would you be doing with your life? If you had all the money in the world, you didn’t have to work at all, what would you be doing? I know for me, I would be spending at least part of my day working because I enjoy working. To me, work is not a means to an end. I actually enjoy it. However, working within boundaries, because our tip number one, we’re talking about five big business boundaries that will benefit your family. Boundary number one is you have to set boundaries with your time. Now I’m going to tell you, I love spending time with my family. Love doing it. I also love working. And what I like to do, what I love to do is I love to spend time working and time with family. I also love to spend time lifting weights. I love to spend time really just harassing people, like pranking people. I have one guy in Colorado who I don’t even know. I have my number slightly wrong. One of my very, very dear friends, he’s the CEO of Oxifresh, and I have his number in the phone It’s off by one digit. The phone number is saved incorrectly by one digit And so whenever I whenever I’m looking for a good time I’ll text the wrong number on purpose and this guy gets irate every time and it’s just it’s something I enjoyed it It’s a pastime that really takes me to the next level of joy. And so today I brought on this show It’s a pastime that really takes me to the next level of joy. And so today I brought on this show I brought on some experts about I say