Clay Clark | Entrepreneur | The 3 Skills Needed To Develop And Sustain Healthy Relationships With Danny Silk

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Get ready to enter the Thrivetime Show! We started from the bottom, now we’re here. We started from the bottom and we’ll show you how to get here. We started from the bottom, now we’re here. We started from the bottom, now we’re here. We started from the bottom, now we’re on the top. Teaching you the systems to get what we got. Cullen Dixon’s on the hooks, I’ve written the books. He’s bringing some wisdom and the good looks. As the father of five, that’s where I’mma dive. So if you see my wife and kids, please tell them hi. It’s C and Z up on your radio. And now, 3, 2, 1, here we go. We started from the bottom, now we’re here. Started from the bottom, and that’s what we gotta do. Danny, thank you for joining us here on Thrive 15, my friend. It’s good to be here, buddy. Hey, today we are talking about something that I think everybody could benefit from learning. And I’m excited to learn from you today, but it’s the three skills needed to develop and sustain healthy relationships. Can we start off and just talk about the goal? If we’re talking about what does a healthy relationship look like, can you explain to me kind of the goal we’re trying to get to or what a healthy relationship looks like in your mind? Yeah, it’s something that we don’t normally take responsibility for, and that is the goal of a relationship. So, commonly, you know, if I have a married couple in my office, they are battling over having the wrong goal, because they want a great marriage, but they have the wrong goal. And the goal that they walk into that counseling appointment with is distance. How much distance do we need to protect ourselves in this relationship? And sometimes we only need this much distance, and other times we need this much distance. And so the way we treat each other, it either, it creates that goal. That goal is get away from me. Okay, okay, get away from me. Okay, okay, but I blame you for why I’m treating you this way. I’m disrespectful, I’m impatient, I’m critical. And I’m trying to create my goal of distance. It seems like we have a lot of thrivers all around the world. And you travel all around the world. That’s why I’m excited to interview about this. Because you’ve seen these patterns probably universally from country to country. But we see this situation where you have a lot of business owners. They work together. And as their business begins to grow, they begin to say that they feel like they’re growing apart because they’re growing as people and they’re creating that distance. Why do we, as a culture around the world, why do we say that alibi or have that reason for saying, well, we’re just growing apart? Why does that, what’s going on with that phenomenon? Well, that’s exactly what happens if you don’t have a different goal. Okay. If you don’t have a different goal, then what naturally happens is anxiety. And anxiety happens because we’re different. You’re different than I am. You do things different. You need things that are different. You desire different things. And so if we don’t have a different goal than distance, what naturally happens is distance. So we grew apart. But when my goal with you is connection, then I need a different skill set. I need a different way to communicate. Because when we disagree, when we hit those differences, and the goal is connection, we have to do something that’s pretty unnatural, really. And this is where the I love you very much starts to show up in the relationship. This is where we start to bond through difficulty. This is where we really start to test our ability to communicate, to build relationships, to create an environment where it’s gonna last a long time. So you have these three skills that you talk about and one is connection One is communication and the other is boundaries So if we can dive into the to the first one here if we can just kind of get into this First principle, what are you talking about? well, the idea of connection as a goal is that It’s something I choose. It’s something that doesn’t happen to me. We don’t just naturally connect. Now that’s where we like to think, oh, I fell in love, and it was so easy. That sort of thing is really a myth, because what I fell in love with is I fell in love with what I don’t know about you. And then over time, we start filling in all the stuff I’ve learned about you, and I’m like, oh my gosh, you’re not the fantasy that I had. Now this has become work, because I have to actually choose the relationship. People have to learn to be powerful in relationships to pursue the goal of connection. Powerless people want stuff to happen to them, and they want it to be somebody else’s job for why their life is working out, or why their life isn’t working out, they get to blame somebody else. So powerless people are always looking for a force outside of themselves to be more powerful than them. Powerful people understand that I’m only powerful with my half of our relationship. I don’t get to determine yours. When did you have this epiphany? Or when, because it seems like it makes a lot of sense. When did you step back and look and go, oh my gosh, people are missing connection, or when did you get this epiphany, this idea of having the wrong goal and the need to connect? I’ve been a counselor in relationships for almost 30 years. And so somewhere in there, working with people and trying to help them be successful, you start noticing these patterns. And as unique as everybody wants to be, they’re very similar. People have real common problems. Connection is one of them. Communication would be another one. And then the boundaries is another one. So you can take a book like Keep Your Love On, and you can get 20 counseling sessions with Danny Because basically you sit in the counseling office for eight hours a day You do that long enough and pretty soon you feel like you’re hearing the same story all day every day And I just you know I just want to hand something out to say ah You know you should have been here on that last guy’s counseling session because it’s the same I’m gonna say the same thing to you because you have the same problem, so if someone’s watching this right now And they’re saying I struggle to connect. They’re not weird. This is something that it’s actually, if you’re not intentional, everyone’s doing this. Everybody’s doing it. It’s a really popular thing to do. Now, let’s talk about communication, because you have a whole different level of intentionality about how you’re communicating. Explain to the Thrivers what you mean by communication, what healthy communication looks like. Well, if my goal with you is to create distance, then I’m going to be sure to jack up the fear while we’re communicating. Okay. So, I’ve got a few things that are going to really just jack up the anxiety between us because we are measuring distance. And then I’m going to blame you for the distance because I didn’t take responsibility for my goal. But if my goal is connection, then I have to have a very different set of skills because I’m trying to lower the anxiety between us while we work through a disagreement, while we work through an offense, while we work through a misunderstanding. Because I’m going after staying connected to you. This is an important relationship to me. I need you to know the truth. I need you to know. I need you to have good information. So I’m not disillusioning you to protect our connection. I need you to have good information, which is, I need something that you don’t need. So give me an example. Let’s say that, you know, what was a typical scenario where you see this play out? An example that you see over and over and over, maybe in the course of a typical marriage. What kind of stuff do you see? You do something and it scares me. Okay. So I get angry. I show you anger. And I try to convince you that I can control you. And so I don’t ever tell you, I don’t ever show you what’s really going on. I feel powerless, so I look powerful. And if you believe that lie, then you feel controlled by me and then I feel better because now I’m back in control and you’re scared of me. Now we’re both scared of each other, no needs got met and we move on to the next problem. You’ve seen this so much, it’s amazing because I think anybody watching this right now you’re going is he spying on us? It’s part of the police state, you’re part of the black helicopters, you’re looking in all the homes. Now, let’s talk about boundaries, because there’s been a lot of books written about boundaries, a lot of people running around talking about boundaries, but I think you have a whole different spin on what that means in the context of a healthy relationship. Let’s dive into boundaries. What do you mean by that? The idea of boundaries is that powerful people are aware of the fact that it’s no one else’s job to manage my time, my energy, my resources, or my relationships. It’s my job to manage those things. So the demands of my life around me are not going to take care of these things. So if I don’t learn how to take care, set limits of how much of my time I’m going to give you, how much of my energy I’m going to give you, how much access to my resources, and what priority of a relationship I give to you. If I don’t manage those things, your ability to demand will consume these really important parts of my life. Okay, so I’m a business owner, let’s say. Let’s say I’m a plumber. I’m watching this. If you’re watching this and you’re a plumber, this one’s for you here. Let’s say I’m a plumber. I’ve got about 15 employees. I’m married to one awesome woman. I have two kids, something like that. The employees have demands, or they’re demanding for resources, or they’re asking for resources, they’re asking for my time. Hey, boss, do you have a minute? Do you have a minute? Could you reimburse me for this, they say. They’re looking for your time, looking for a little bit of your money. Hey, could you give me a bonus? Everyone’s asking, can I have some of your time? Can I have some of your money? The customer wants to meet one more time. The yellow page sales guy wants to meet you and you’re not even sure that people even use yellow pages anymore There’s people leaving you voicemails emails social media. It’s all just coming in. Yeah, how do you set those boundaries? How do you specifically do it? And what advice would you have for somebody’s going through it? Well, you know, you have to learn how to Organize the activity around you So as you build an organization as you build your environment, you learn to delegate to fewer and fewer and fewer people who are then empowered to handle more and more and more things. So I’m going to delegate to you, but you have five things that you can take care of for me, so when we meet, I’m actually taking care of six things. I’m taking care of you and five other areas by paying attention to one area. And I learned to structure my environment to only give access to people that are either high priority relationships, like my wife. My wife gets my most access to my life. She gets most access to my time, my energy, my money. That lady could spend money like nobody around me could spend money, right? My money. Because of the priority relationship she has. She has that level of access. She could call me right now And she would be the first person I talked to after I leave this conversation, okay? Because she has that priority with me. I protect that I I the way that I treat her is Is the message to her she’s a top priority, okay? So if I spend all my time with you, and I don’t answer my phone to her She begins to get moved away from the priority of access to my life. So do you when a phone rings, let’s say the phone rings and you look and you see that number is your wife, you get it. If it’s other people you don’t get it sometimes. Exactly. How do you, let’s say you’re, you know, let’s go with the plumber example and let’s say that the plumber’s watching this right now he’s like, aha, I can’t be the personal contact for all 14 plumbers. Yes. And I can’t answer all the customer calls and I can’t. How does somebody who’s already over committed, they’re already in a you know there’s 14 people that have begun to expect them to answer the phone and his wife knows that he won’t answer the phone for her because he’s answering all the plumbers and how does somebody begin to radically change their boundaries if they find themselves right now way outside of what you’re recommending? People tend to change for two reasons. Most people change because of pain. My wife threatened to leave me. I have chest pains. My doctor said I have to change something. My best customers are going to somebody who’s better at managing their boundaries than I am. I’m scared, so I start changing because I have to. Other people change because of vision. I’m going to build a life that I want to live in. I’m going to surround myself with things like Thrive. I’m going to get good input. I’m going to learn new tools. I’m going to learn new ways of seeing things. And I’m going to learn. I’m going to grow and develop. And so I expect to be different this time next year because of the things I’m learning. So everyone has those two motivators. You can change because of vision, or you can change because of pain. Now, I’ve heard it said by a lot of the mentors we’ve talked to, and even Thrivers on the phone, we talk to these folks, and they’ll say, you know, I had that breakdown, and then I had my breakthrough. It’s like the breakthrough always comes after the breakdown. For somebody who’s maybe new to the concept of creating a vision, you said something that’s powerful. You know, you said if you have a vision, that is one of those factors that would cause you to change your boundaries. What would you say to somebody who’s watching this who says, I don’t, I’ve never actually formally had a vision. And you’re talking to me about this. I mean, a lot of thrivers who have been working in a job for 20 years, 30 years, they’ve never really had a big vision for their life, and just by going on to thrive, they’re now starting to get ideas and concepts. What is the best way, and I know we’re going off the beaten path a little bit here, but what’s the best way to distill a vision like that and kind of wrap your mind around a big idea like that? I think it has a lot to do with feeling like you you were born to do something. And doing that or accomplishing that gives you an energizing experience. So it’s not something, because classically when I have to do something, it costs me energy wise. When I get to do something, it fuels me energy wise. So if I’m going to build a vision, I want to make sure that I’m drawn into this thing because it’s energizing my life. That begins to create a pull on my life instead of needing something to push me. You know, constantly we need, I gotta pay my bills. You know, these people are gonna be upset with me. I’m gonna be in trouble if I don’t. That life is, you know, it is so hard to live like that because as soon as the thing stops pushing you, you stop moving. I feel like a lot of people though watching this and I’m trying to I don’t be that the Satan certainly doesn’t need an advocate so I’m not gonna be the devil’s advocate But I guess if I’m the contrarian if I’m watching this I’m just trying to ask you what I think a lot of people are thinking they’re going Start to tell people I’m not available for this because I’m available for that, you know Once I start to set those boundaries I just feel kind of selfish. What do you say to somebody who, either self-taught or the way they were taught or raised, they’re taught, hey, you’re kind of being selfish if you’re not immediately responsive to every human that calls you. I’d say that you’re as selfish as Jesus. Really? Yeah. Can you impact that? Because that’s a little intense. Yeah, yeah. It’s a little known fact that Jesus was very healthy. And he was very powerful. And he was very effective. He accomplished turning the world upside down in three years. That’s pretty powerful. That’s pretty focused. He had the ability to say yes really well. And he would say things like, I only do that which I see my father doing. Which eliminates everything else. I’m only doing these things. This is my vision. I’m only doing these things. That’s why my goal in my marriage better be part of my vision. My goal with my family better be part of my vision. My goal with my company is my vision. The focus of my life’s energy is my vision. And so if I’m going to build a life that I feel like I was put on this earth to do, I’m the only one who’s going to steward that. You are not going to steward my vision for me. You’re actually going to challenge my vision in many ways by needing something that maybe I don’t have to give to you. So let’s recap these in terms of action items. I know that people are watching this, we’re having some epiphanies, our synapses are firing here. One, we’re talking about the connection. What’s an action step that every single person watching this can do right now, within the next 24 hours, they’re inspired. What can they do, what can everybody do to begin establishing the right kind of connection that you spoke of? It would be to assess what is the goal of your relationship? To honestly answer that question. If you came in for marriage counseling, you would sit on my couch there and I would say, so talk to me a little bit, what would you like to do? And the guy would say, well, she made the appointment, so let her go first. I go, okay, so ma’am, and then she would reach in her purse and she would pull out this list and I say, ma’am, we’re not going to go over that list, we’re not going to do it. Here’s what I want to know. I want to know what is the goal of your marriage? And then one of them is going to say well to raise our kids. You know not Not be poor miserable people and you know do something for Jesus. Okay, great All right, that’s the goal of your parenting your finances and your ministry. What’s the goal of your marriage? Yeah, I don’t understand the question because people don’t think about that they don’t think about what is the goal of your love union? Okay, what are you doing? I? Decide was gonna kind of magically happen. I was kind of hoping It was just gonna take care of itself. Well. What if you approached your business like that? Yeah, you know and and so if you take a moment, and you say what is the goal of my marriage? Is it distance or is it connection? And you can do this for any relationship, period. You can do this with your boss. You’re thinking, what is the connection I want to have with my boss or with my top reports? Or just, what is the connection you’re looking for? Your children, your suppliers, whatever. You will discover the way you behave in a relationship is either conducive to success or it is unraveling something. And that trails itself back to you. Is my goal connection or is my goal distance? I’m a powerful person. I can make a choice. If my goal is distance, then I should communicate. I really don’t want to have this relationship with you. Do you actually do that sometimes though? Have you ever done that? Where you’re setting your boundaries, you do this? You can’t. Sometimes you have to say, we’re all done talking. I’m all done investing in this relationship because it’s disrespectful, it’s irresponsible. I don’t have any disrespectful, irresponsible relationships in my life for very long. Let me ask you what if someone’s watching this and they’re and it’s family They have someone in their office. That’s uh You know, they’ve brought a family member into the office place, you know when you hire family gets a little crazy Sometimes they bring them in and it’s just a caustic. Do you does this apply for family? Oh, oh 100% really So you would actually tell family. Hey, we’re kind of done talking here. You would do that I would tell it to my wife really? Oh, yeah, I would say honey. I’ll be glad to finish this conversation if it stays respectful No, because right now it’s not and what I’m doing is I’m communicating to her that I am committed to high levels of respect in our communication I’m my goal with you is connection. Okay, and disrespect Undermines connection. Okay, so I’m gonna have a conversation with you as long as it stays respectful. Now let’s talk about this communication action item. If someone’s watching this right now, a Thriver’s watching this, what are some action items they can do right now to really dial in their communication? Is it just making sure it’s respectful? I’m going to learn how I feel and I’m going to learn about what it is that I need. Sometimes you might have to get online and pop up a feeling chart, you know, because you go, I’m mad, I’m okay. I was okay until you made me mad. Yeah, so I got two feelings. It’s like, no, no, it’s not really, it doesn’t work that way. It’s much more complex and it’s much more effective to have words attached to your feelings instead of behaviors because typically we behave our feelings if we don’t have words for them. This is what children do. Children throw themselves on the floor, roll around, kick things, throw things, slam doors, run out of the room, whine. When adults are doing that, this is not good. So I have to be able to assign words. I feel rejected, I feel hurt, I feel lonely, I feel disconnected, I feel disrespected, invalidated. There’s all kinds of feeling words that I have to learn in order to be able to communicate to you Here’s what’s going on inside of me. I want you to see me now The final one is the boundaries so as far as action items should should thrivers Kind of assess and go ahead and take a deep dive if they’ve never done this and define their boundaries of what? They want their schedule to look like and what they want their relationships to be like or what’s the where do you start? It’s kind of a developmental process. You know I have to learn that I’m powerful. I have to learn that I’m responsible for those decisions that I’m making. I have to choose my goals. I have to be responsible with those goals. I am going to learn to communicate in such a way that I’m able to chase fear away and invite the I care about you message to create a connection with you. And then I have to learn how to prioritize what is it that I’m gonna protect about my life? What are the essentials in my life that if those go away, this goes away? What are those essentials? A strong marriage, strong family, healthy finances, healthy body, healthy spirit. I mean, I got some things to take care of before I can get to all y’all, you know? And if I don’t, then I’m sacrificing the goose to spin the egg. I love that you’re saying that, because it’s so empowering, the idea that you do have the power to take control of your life, as opposed to being powerless. And I love that, because I’ve talked to so many thrivers, personally, who’ve told me that they feel selfish when they’re setting those boundaries, and I think you’ve really cleared that up. So, final question I have for you is, for anybody who’s watching this all over the planet and they say I like that I want to learn some more about that Maybe you recommend your book or tell where they can find you online so they can learn more if they want to have you come Speak to their organization where they can do that. Yeah loving on purpose is a my organization. So loving on purpose calm I’ve written several books Keep your love on is the most recent one and that’s when we’ve been talking about. Culture of honor is another one. And that has a lot of paradigm, really, around what does it look like for powerful people to work together and protect that relationship while we’re both happening? Because classically, people take turns being submitted. We call it submitted. But it’s really powerless. Like, you get to be powerful. I’m going to be powerless. And I’m going to hate it. And then I’m going to try to get it back. And this dynamic environment tears things apart because I don’t really understand the idea of honor. Loving your kids on purpose is really the culture of honor in your family. How do you empower your children? So I would recommend those three books, and check out the LovingOnPurpose.com site. You’ve blown my mind. I’m going to have to duct tape it back together and try to put the brain matter back in later. I appreciate you though putting up with me and thank you for being here. Great to meet you Clay, thanks. JT, do you know what time it is? 410. It’s TiVo time in Tulsa, Roseland baby. Tim TiVo is coming to Tulsa, Oklahoma June 27th and 28th. We’ve been doing business conferences here since 2005. I’ve been hosting business conferences since 2005. What year were you born? 1995. Dude, I’ve been hosting business conferences since you were 10 years old, but I’ve never had the two-time Heisman Award winning Tim Tebow come present. And a lot of people, you know, have followed Tim Tebow’s football career on the field and off the field. And off the field, the guy’s been just as successful as he has been on the field. Now the big question is, JT, how does he do it? Well, they’re gonna have to come and find out because I don’t know. Well, I’m just saying, Tim Tebow’s gonna teach us how he organizes his day, how he organizes his life, how he’s proactive with his faith, his family, his finances. He’s gonna walk us through his mindset that he brings into the gym, into business. It is gonna be a blasty blast in Tulsa, Russia. Also, this is the first Thrive Time Show event that we’ve had where we’re going to have a man who has built a $100 million net worth. Wow. Who will be presenting. Now, we’ve had a couple of presenters that have had a billion dollar net worth in some like real estate sort of things. Yeah. But this is the first time we’ve had a guy who’s built a service business and he’s built over a $100 million net worth in the service business. It’s the yacht driving, multi-state living guru of franchising. Peter Taunton will be in the house. This is the founder of Snap Fitness, the guy behind Nine Round Boxing. He’s going to be here in Tulsa, Oklahoma, June 27th and 28th. JT, why should everybody want to hear what Peter Taunton has to say? Oh, because he’s incredible. He’s just a fountain of knowledge. He is awesome. He’s inspired me listening to him talk. And not only that, he also has, he practices what he teaches. So he’s a real teacher. He’s not a fake teacher like business school teachers. So you’ve got to come learn from him. Also, let me tell you this, folks. I don’t want to get this wrong because if I get it wrong, someone’s going to say, you screwed that up, buddy. So Michael Levine, this is Michael Levine. He’s going to be coming. You say, who is Michael Levine? I don’t want to get this wrong. This is the PR consultant of choice for Michael Jackson, Prince, for Nike, for Charlton Heston, for Nancy Kerrigan, 34 Grammy Award winners, 43 New York Times best-selling authors he’s represented, including pretty much everybody you know who’s been a super celebrity. This is Michael Levine, a good friend of mine. He’s going to come and talk to you about personal branding and the mindset needed to be super successful. The lineup will continue to grow. We have hit Christian reporting artist, Holton Dixon in the house. Now people say, Holton Dixon’s in the house? Yes! Holton Dixon’s in the house. So if you like top 40 Christian music, Holton Dixon’s going to be in the house performing. The lineup will continue to grow each and every day. We’re going to add more and more speakers to this all-star lineup, but I encourage everybody out there today, get those tickets today. Go to Thrivetimeshow.com. Again, that’s Thrivetimeshow.com and some people might be saying, well, how do I do it? What do I do? How does it work? You just go to Thrivetimeshow.com. Let’s go there now. We’re feeling the flow. We’re going to Thrivetimeshow.com. Thrivetimeshow.com. Again, you just go to Thrivetimeshow.com. You click on the business conferences button and you click on the request tickets button right there. The way I do our conferences is we tell people it’s $250 to get a ticket. Yep. Or whatever price that you can afford. And the reason why I do that is I grew up without money. JT, you’re in the process of building a super successful company. Did you start out with a million dollars in the bank account? No, I did not. Nope, did not get any loans, nothing like that. Did not get any inheritance from parents or anything like that. I had to work for it and I’m super grateful I came to a business conference. That’s actually how I met you, met Peter Taunton, I met all these people. So if you’re out there today and you want to come to our workshop, again, you just got to go to thrivetimeshow.com. You might say, well, when’s it going to be? June 27 and 28. You might say, well, who’s speaking? We already covered that. You might say, where is it going to be? It’s going to be in Tulsa, Russia, Oklahoma. I suppose it’s Tulsa, Russia. I’m really trying to rebrand Tulsa as Tulsa, Russia, sort of like the Jerusalem of America. But if you type in Thrive Time Show in Jinx, you can get a sneak peek or a look at our office facility. This is what it looks like. This is where you’re headed. It’s going to be a blasty blast. You can look inside, see the facility. We’re going to have hundreds of entrepreneurs here. It is going to be packed. Now, for this particular event, folks, the seating is always limited because my facility isn’t a limitless convention center. You’re coming to my actual home office, and so it’s going to be packed. So when? June 27th to 28th. Who? You! You’re going to come. Who? I’m talking to you. You can just get your tickets right now at thrivetimeshow.com. And again, you can name your price. We tell people it’s $250 or whatever price you can afford. And we do have some select VIP tickets, which gives you an access to meet some of the speakers and those sorts of things. And those tickets are $500. It’s a two-day interactive business workshop, over 20 hours of business training. We’re going to give you a copy of my newest book, The Millionaire’s Guide to Becoming Sustainably Rich. You’re going to leave with a workbook. You’re going to leave with everything you need to know to start and grow a super successful company. It’s practical. It’s actionable. And it’s TiVo time right here in Tulsa, Russia. Get those tickets today at Thrivetimeshow.com. Again, that’s Thrivetimeshow.com. Hello, I’m Michael Levine, and I’m talking to you right now from the center of Hollywood, California, the last 35 years, 58 Academy Award winners, 34 Grammy Award winners, 43 New York Times bestsellers. I’ve represented a lot of major stars and I’ve worked with a lot of major companies and I think I’ve learned a few things about what makes them work and what makes them not work. Now, why would a man living in Hollywood, California, in the beautiful, sunny weather of LA, come to Tulsa? Because last year I did it, and it was damn exciting. Clay Clark has put together an exceptional presentation. Really life-changing. And I’m looking forward to seeing you then. I’m Michael Levine. I’ll see you in Tulsa. James, did I tell you my good friend John Lee Dumas is also joining us at the in-person, two-day interactive Thrive Time Show Business Workshop. That Tim Tebow and that Michael Levine will be at the… Have I told you this? You have not told me that. He’s coming all the way from Puerto Rico. This is John Lee Dumas, the host of the chart-topping EOFire.com podcast. He’s absolutely a living legend. This guy started a podcast after wrapping up his service in the United States military and he started recording this podcast daily in his home to the point where he started interviewing big-time folks like Gary Vaynerchuk, like Tony Robbins, and he just kept interviewing bigger and bigger names putting up shows day after day and now he is the legendary host of the EO Fire podcast and he’s traveling all Rico to Tulsa, Oklahoma to attend the in-person June 27th and 28th primetime show two-day interactive business workshop if you’re out there today folks you’ve ever wanted to grow a podcast a Broadcast you want to get him you want to improve your marketing if you’ve ever wanted to improve your Marketing your branding if you’ve ever wanted to increase your sales you want to come to the two-day interactive June 27th and 28th primetime show business workshop featuring Tim Tebow, Michael Levine, John Lee Dumas, and countless big time, super successful entrepreneurs. It’s going to be life changing. Get your tickets right now at ThriveTimeshow.com. James, what website is that? ThriveTimeshow.com. James, one more time for the 40’s enthusiasts. ThriveTimeshow.com. If I got three strikes, I’m gonna go for it. This moment, we own it. A, I’m not to be played with. B, cause it could get dangerous. C, these people I ride with. This moment, we own it. Thrive Time Show two-day interactive business workshops are the world’s highest rated and most reviewed business workshops. Because we teach you what you need to know are the world’s highest rated and most reviewed business workshops. Because we teach you what you need to know to grow. You can learn the proven 13 point business systems that Dr. Zellner and I have used over and over to start and grow successful companies. We get into the specifics, the specific steps on what you need to do to optimize your website. We’re going to teach you how to fix your conversion rate. We’re going to teach you how to do a social media marketing campaign that works. How do you raise capital? How do you get a small business loan? We teach you everything you need to know here during a two day, 15 hour workshop. It’s all here for you. You work every day in your business, but for two days you can escape and work on your business and build these proven systems so now you can have a successful company that will produce both the time freedom and the financial freedom that you deserve. You’re gonna leave energized, motivated, but you’re also going to leave empowered. The reason why I built these workshops is because as an entrepreneur, I always wish that I had this. And because there wasn’t anything like this, I would go to these motivational seminars, no money down, real estate, Ponzi scheme, get motivated seminars, and they would never teach me anything. It was like you went there and you paid for the Edithic chocolate Easter bunny, but inside of it, it was a hollow nothingness. And I wanted the knowledge, and they’re like, Oh, but we’ll teach you the knowledge after our next workshop. And the great thing is we have nothing to upsell. At every workshop, we teach you what you need to know. There’s no one in the back of the room trying to sell you some next big get-rich-quick, walk-on-hot-coals product. It’s literally, we teach you the brass tacks, the specific stuff that you need to know to learn how to start and grow a business. And I encourage you to not believe what I’m saying, but I want you to Google the Z66 auto auction. I want you to Google elephant in the room. Look at Robert, Zellner & Associates. Look them up and say, are they successful because they’re geniuses, or are they successful because they have a proven system? When you do that research, you will discover that the same systems that we use in our own business can be used in your business. Come to Tulsa, book a ticket, and I guarantee you it’s gonna be the best business workshop ever, and we’re gonna give you your money back if you don’t love it. We’ve built this facility for you, and we’re excited to see it. And now you may be thinking, what does it actually cost to attend an in-person two-day interactive Thrive Time Show business workshop? Well, good news, the tickets are $250 or whatever price that you can afford. What? Yes, they’re $250 or whatever price you can afford. I grew up without money and I know what it’s like to live without money. So if you’re out there today and you want to attend our in-person two-day interactive business workshop, all you gotta do is go to Thrivetimeshow.com to request those tickets. And if you can’t afford $250, we have scholarship pricing available to make it affordable for you. I learned at the Academy in Kings Point in New York, acta non verba. Watch what a person does, not what they say. Good morning, good morning, good morning. Harvard Keosake, The Rich Dad Radio Show. Today I’m broadcasting from Phoenix, Arizona, not Scottsdale, Arizona. They’re close, but they’re completely different worlds. And I have a special guest today. Definition of intelligence is if you agree with me, you’re intelligent. And so this gentleman is very intelligent. I’ve done this show before also, but very seldom do you find somebody who lines up on all counts. And so Mr. Clay Clark is a friend of a good friend, Eric Trump. But we’re also talking about money, bricks, and how screwed up the world can get in a few and a half hour. So Clay Clark is a very intelligent man and there’s so many ways we could take this thing. But I thought since you and Eric are close, Trump, what were you saying about what Trump can’t, what Donald, who is my age and I can say or cannot say. Well I have to, first of all I have to honor you sir. I want to show you what I did to one of your books here. There’s a guy named Jeremy Thorne, who was my boss at the time. I was 19 years old, working at Faith Highway. I had a job at Applebee’s, Target, and DirecTV. He said, have you read this book, Rich Dad, Poor Dad? I said, no. My father, may he rest in peace, he didn’t know these financial principles. I started reading all of your books and really devouring your books. I went from being an employee to self-employed to the business owner to the investor and I owe a lot of that to you and I just want to take a moment to tell you thank you so much for allowing me to achieve success and I’ll tell you all about Eric Trump I just want to tell you thank you sir for changing my life. Well not only that Clay, you know thank you but you’ve become an influencer you know more than anything else you’ve evolved into an influencer where your word has more and more power. So that’s why I congratulate you on becoming. Because as you know, there’s a lot of fake influencers out there, or bad influencers. Yeah. Anyway, I’m glad you and I agree so much, and thanks for reading my books. Yeah. That’s the greatest thrill for me today. Not thrill, but recognition is when people, young men especially, come up and say, I read your book, changed my life, I’m doing this, I’m doing this, I’m doing this. I learned at the academy, King’s Point in New York, acta non verba. Watch what a person does, not what they say. Hey, I’m Ryan Wimpey. I’m originally from Tulsa, born and raised here. I went to a small private liberal arts college and got a degree in business and I didn’t learn anything like they’re teaching here. I didn’t learn linear workflows. I learned stuff that I’m not using and I haven’t been using for the last nine years. So what they’re teaching here is actually way better than what I got at business school. And I went what was actually ranked as a very good business school. The linear workflow, the linear workflow for us in getting everything out on paper and documented is really important. Like we have workflows that are kind of all over the place. Having linear workflow and seeing that mapped out on multiple different boards is pretty awesome. That’s really helpful for me. The atmosphere here is awesome. I definitely just stare at the walls figuring out how to make my facility look like this place. This place rocks. It’s invigorating. The walls are super, it’s just very cool. The atmosphere is cool. The people are nice. It’s a pretty cool place to be. Very good learning atmosphere. I literally want to model it and steal everything that’s here at this facility and basically create it just on our business side. Once I saw what they were doing, I knew I had to get here at the conference. This is probably the best conference or seminar I’ve ever been to in over 30 years of business. You’re not bored, you’re waiting live the whole time. It’s not pushy. It’ll try to sell you a bunch of things. I was looking to learn how to just get control of my life, my schedule, and just get control of business. Planning your time, breaking it all down, making time for the F6 in your life, and just really implementing it and sticking with the program. It’s really lively. They’re pretty friendly, helpful, and very welcoming. I attended a conference a couple months back and it was really the best business conference I’ve ever attended. At the workshop I’ve learned a lot about time management, really prioritizing what’s the most important. Biggest takeaways are, you know, you want to take a step-by-step approach to your business. Whether it’s marketing, you know, what are those three marketing tools that you want to use, to human resources. Some of the most successful people and successful businesses in this town, their owners were here today because they wanted to know more from Clay. And I found that to be kind of fascinating. The most valuable thing that I’ve learned is diligence, that businesses don’t change overnight. It takes time and effort. And you’ve got to go through the ups and downs of getting it to where you want to go. He actually gives you the roadmap out. I was stuck, didn’t know what to do and he gave me the road map out step by step. We’ve set up systems in the business that make my life much easier, allow me some time freedom. Here you can ask any question you want, they guarantee it will be answered. This conference motivates me and also gives me a lot of knowledge and tools. It’s up to you to do these things. They’re stuff that everybody knows, but if you don’t do it, nobody else is going to do it for you. I can see the marketing working, and it’s just an approach that makes sense. Probably the most notable thing is just the income increase that we’ve had. Everyone’s super fun and super motivating. I’ve been here before, but I’m back again because it motivates me. Your competition’s going to come eventually or try to pick up these tactics. So you better, if you don’t, somebody else will. I’m Rachel with Tip Top K9 and we just want to give a huge thank you to Clay and Vanessa Clark. Hey guys, I’m Ryan with Tip Top K9. Just want to say a big thank you to Thrive 15. Thank you to Make Your Life Epic. We love you guys, we appreciate you and really just appreciate how far you’ve taken us. This is our old neighborhood. See? It’s nice, right? So this is my old van and our old school marketing, and this is our old team. And by team, I mean it’s me and another guy. This is our new van with our new marketing and this is our new team. We went from four to 14 and I took this beautiful photo. We worked with several different business coaches in the past and they were all about helping Ryan sell better and just teaching sales, which is awesome, but Ryan is a really great salesman. So we didn’t need that. We needed somebody to help us get everything that was in his head out into systems, into manuals and scripts and actually build a team. So now that we have systems in place, we’ve gone from one to 10 locations in only a year. In October 2016, we grossed 13 grand for the whole month. Right now it’s 2018, the month of October. It’s only the 22nd. We’ve already grossed a little over 50 grand for the whole month and we still have time to go. We’re just thankful for you, thankful for Thrive and your mentorship and we’re really thankful that you guys have helped us to grow a business that we run now instead of the business running us. Just thank you, thank you, thank you, tons of thousands. So we really just want to thank you Clay and thank you Vanessa for everything you’ve done, everything you’ve helped us with. We love you guys. If you decide to not attend the Thrive Time Workshop, you’re missing out on a great opportunity. The atmosphere at Clay’s office is very lively. You can feel the energy as soon as you walk through the door, and it really got me and my team very excited. If you decide not to come, you’re missing out on an opportunity to grow your business, bottom line. I love the environment. I love the way that Clay presents and teaches. It’s a way that not only allows me to comprehend what’s going on, but he explains it in a way to where it just makes sense. The SEO optimization, branding, marketing, I’ve learned more in the last two days than I have the entire four years of college. The most valuable thing that I’ve learned, marketing is key, marketing is everything. Making sure that you’re branded accurately and clearly. How to grow our business using Google reviews, and then just how to optimize our name through our website also. Helpful with a lot of marketing, search engine optimization, helping us really rank high in Google. The biggest thing I needed to learn was how to build my foundation, how to systemize everything and optimize everything, build my SEO. How to become more organized, more efficient. How to make sure the business is really there to serve me, as opposed to me constantly being there for the business. New ways of advertising my business as well as recruiting new employees. Group interviews, number one. Before we felt like we were held hostage by our employees. Group interviews has completely eliminated that because you’re able to really find the people that would really be the best fit. Hands on how to hire people, how to deal with human resources, a lot about marketing and overall just how to structure the business, how it works for me and also then how that can translate into working better for my clients. The most valuable thing I’ve learned here is time management. I like the one hour of doing your business is real critical if I’m going to grow and change. Play really teaches you how to navigate through those things and not only find freedom, but find your purpose in your business and find the purposes for all those other people that directly affect your business as well. Everybody. Everybody. Everybody. Everybody. Everyone needs to attend the conference because you get an opportunity to see that it’s real.