Would You Rather? Choosing to Be Satisfied and Simplified or the Boss of Chaos – A Knowledge Bomb

Audio Transcription

All right, thrive nation. This is clay Clark, the former United States Small Business Administration entrepreneur of the year for the state of Oklahoma. And uh, I’m a father of five kids. And on today’s show we’re talking about a subject that people constantly ask me after we lead them all the way to the end of the proven path. So what happens is I will, I’ll work with the business coaching client. It might seem hard to believe if you’re not there, but I’ll work with a client who, let’s say they own a photography business or a staffing company or they’re a dentist doctor, whatever the industry is, and they come into the business coaching program and they’re looking for time freedom, right? They say, I’m looking for time freedom and financial freedom. And so I thought I would record this show today from my, uh, from the forest behind my house. Um, so you could hear when I say time freedom and financial freedom, what I’m referencing, I live on land.

Uh, behind a wall is very tall and uh, I finished work today when I came home from work. I defined work as, we had a meeting that started this morning at 6:00 AM, was our coaches meeting. We coach the coaches at 7:00 AM. We had our all team or our sales team meeting where we train all of our staff at the different businesses in sales at eight. I don’t recall what that meeting was. No, 8:00. I was meeting with a peak medical, a wonderful business owner up in Boise, Idaho. At 10 I was meeting with, um, a fitness company, magnets, fitness and Tulsa, Oklahoma. And that 11 I was meeting with a witness security, a security company in Tulsa, Oklahoma, find company. And then at 12 I was working with district clinical research out of New Orleans. Now the clients I work with, I will always, uh, get them to a place of financial freedom and time freedom if they stay the course.

And so of those clients I just mentioned, many of them have achieved this, this thing called a financial freedom, which is where they have all of the money that they need and many of them and my clients, most of my clients, I’ll eventually, every client will get to a place where they have time freedom, if that is what they’re looking for as well. But what after you’ve achieved time freedom and financial freedom, the real business coaching question is, would you rather have your life simplified or busy scattered and drained, you know, would you rather be a successful in terms of finances and you have time freedom and financial freedom. Would you rather do that? Or would you rather have a busy, scattered and drained existence? Because it’s crazy as it sounds, in order to get to a place of financial and time freedom, your life will actually become much more simplified in the process.

You have an org chart and when you build an organizational chart, you have to teach your team how to stick within it. And probably the hardest challenge for me, it’s, you know, it was sticking into my own, sticking within my own organizational chart, you know, honoring my own delegation, one of the Times as an entrepreneur, it’s so easy to want to hop in there and do it yourself and you almost feel like you’re not doing anything or like you’re not helping out or you’re, or you’re not a hard worker if you’re not doing the work yourself. And so I found myself when I built my first brand, a Dj connection at a place where I felt like I really should, a Dj is crazy as it sounds. I feel like I should actually go out there, entertain. I feel like I should lead every meeting.

I felt like I needed to do everything now because we financially needed it to, needed to have like I needed to because the pressure of the world was upon me to, uh, grow, grow, grow, make it bigger, make it better, bigger, better, bigger, better. I already had a waiting list. I already had all the money I could ever spend, but yet I feel like I need to make it bigger, better, better, bigger. And now I’m 37, I’m half dead and I’ve discovered that I’m really, um, I don’t need to make it bigger, better, you know, our thrive time show coaching program, we will only accommodate 160 clients. We’re never going to have 470 clients because there’s just so much back end work. We have an in person workshop where all of our clients can attend and we don’t work with two clients in the same industry unless the other client’s okay with within the same city.

Um, and it, just, all of the businesses are doing great. But I, I’ve felt this pressure for many people to always want to grow bigger, better, better, bigger, and it’s really not conducive to time freedom and financial freedom. And so I wanted to read you some notable quotables today as I’m asking you, what would you rather be simplified? I worked for busy, scattered and drained Gretchen Rubin. She wrote this book about happiness and the happiness project or why I spent a year trying to sing in the morning, clean my closets, fight right, read aristotle and generally have more fun. Well, Gretchen Rubin found out here in her book, she. She researched all these people that you know all over the world and was asking me, are you happy? What’s crazy is the people that reported being the happiest are the ones who had the most simplified life, but the people that were the most unhappy were the ones that felt like they needed to update their instagram, their facebook or twitter email need to call these things.

They just load up their day with all these complicated, very overwhelming tasks, and she wrote here, she says, the belief that business coaching unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish as misguided. It’s more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted. It everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high. He seemed self self sufficient. He becomes a cushion for others and because happiness seems unforced, that person, that person usually gets no credit. She goes on to write. It’s about living in the moment happiness. Happiness is about living in the moment and appreciating the smallest things surrounding yourselves with the things that inspired you, like a field, like living in a forest and sometimes letting go of the obsessions that wants to take your mind over. It is a daily struggle sometimes and hard work, but happiness begins with your attitude and how you look at the world.

George more that the famous author, the short writer, poet, art critic, dramatists, uh, he actually was quoted and Phil Jackson’s book, 11 rings and it’s a very into Phil Jackson’s book, the very, very end. This was the head coach for Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant when he led them to their 11 championships between the two, the gap between the two NBA mvps and hall of fame players. It’s at the end of Phil Jackson’s book, George Moore writes a man’s truck. He says, a man travels the world over in search of what he needs and returns home to find it. A man travels the world in search of what he needs and returns home to find it. So my friends, what’s the point of this? What’s the point of today’s podcast? That good question I asked you is, would you rather be simplified and have all the time freedom and financial freedom or do you want to be busy, scattered and drain?

Always looking for the idea of the week. Well, for me, a steve jobs did a talk. I’ll put a link to it on today’s show notes, uh, at Stanford where he asks the question, you know, what do you have to lose? And he talks a lot about remembering that he’ll be dead soon when he remembers that he’ll be dead soon and helps him to not worry about crap. That doesn’t matter. And I would just encourage you today to ask yourself, I mean, what are things on your to do list that you need to stop doing? And here, here’s some action items for everybody out there. One, take control of your schedule, scheduled time to have your phone off and your phone on to choose to surround yourself with people who are positive, prune the trees, have negative people, constant emailers and dramatic humans. Three, don’t buy things that you don’t need to impress people that you really don’t care about or that you don’t know and for schedule business coaching activities that you love into your schedule. Put scheduled things you love to do in to your schedule. This is clay Clark, reporting from Camp Clark and chicken palace in the forest, and now I’m going to go record a podcast with Dr Green, the former dean of the oral Roberts University School

of business.